Marriage and Couples Counseling
A couple’s pattern of behavior has a powerful influence on their relationship. In marriage and couple’s counseling the unit of treatment isn’t just the person – it is the set of relationships in which the person is embedded.
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY FOR COUPLES
EFT is a systemic and structured approach to couple and family therapy formulated in the 1980s by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. Grounded in attachment theory, this approach recognizes the primacy of emotion in organizing both inner experience and key interactional patterns in primary attachment relationships. Emotion is seen as a powerful agent of change in the therapy, not just as a manifestation of relationship distress. By expanding client’s emotional experience around core attachment needs and structuring change events to shift the cycle of negative interactions, EFT therapists work to help partners and family members create a more secure bond in their relationship
As a certified EFT therapist and supervisor, I have extensive experience working with couples Together, we look at how communication and emotional needs have become a negative pattern which prevents partners from having the communication and closeness that they truly desire in their relationship. We identify those negative patterns and work to develop positive patterns of communicating and meeting each other’s emotional needs.
Strengths of Emotionally Focused Therapy
EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.
EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.
Change strategies and interventions are specified.
Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
EFT has been applied to many kinds of problems and populations.
Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy
To expand and re-organize key emotional responses, the music of the attachment dance.
To create a shift in partners’ interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction.
To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners.
Do you need couples or marriage counseling?
Do you seem to have the same arguments or problems over and over again?
Do you feel lonely, mistreated, misunderstood in your current relationship?
Do you wish you were closer to your spouse/boyfriend? Have you contemplated divorce, separation, walking away from it all?
Have you had disruptions of your trust because of past relationships, internet flirting infidelity,substance abuse, over-working, etc.?
Does it seem that you have fallen out of love? Do fights get carried away? Do little problems get blown up? Do your fight about parenting, finances, sex life, in-laws leave you feeling awful?